tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6293687555158792845.post6959926141941298121..comments2023-06-01T04:55:07.354-05:00Comments on Five, Six... Pick up sticks: Grief sneeking upCNJhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03081163766580844950noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6293687555158792845.post-67891653489978962912010-08-05T02:22:47.892-05:002010-08-05T02:22:47.892-05:00WOW.. You are so amazing to have gone through a fu...WOW.. You are so amazing to have gone through a full year of paperwork and heartache and everything else just to be able to go to CHINA.. Adoption on any frontier is difficult, but ours seems pretty easy in comparison. Do you still have to do the finalization in the states if you adopt from abroad? We are still in the finalization stages with Helena, which is proving to be challenging as well. Much luck with Clair and her grieving.. many hugs from afar!Stacihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01160078305798872524noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6293687555158792845.post-37203281791217965392010-07-17T05:53:21.355-05:002010-07-17T05:53:21.355-05:00This was a very touching post and hit home with me...This was a very touching post and hit home with me. I can relate to Claire in the grief as my dad was very ill and died on December 1. Those few weeks in November/December were so very traumatic. Then we got word we would be in China soon to bring Elijah home. So began the busy preparations and our grief got shuttled to the back. Much like her grief maybe took a backseat to her excitement of receiving her forever family and travling to her new home far away. <br /><br />However, in China, on the way home, and right after we came home, the grief of losing my precious dad came out in wave after wave. I got motion sick on the way home, my neck injury (sustained in a car wreck in the fall starting surfacing, and I had such a difficult time with Elijah rejecting me all the way home even though I knew in my brain that this was completely normal and would go away once home). <br /><br />The flight home was so hard in so many ways, but the worst part was stepping off the plane with Eli and Dad not being there. This was 2 1/2 months after losing Dad! Then the long recupartion and adjustment to our new family was compounded by our extreme grief over Dad's death. Whew! I can feel now that we are on the other side at times, but still it comes in waves.<br /><br />My heart breaks for Elijah, Clarie, and all of our other sweet children who are so young and do not understand this cycle. Eli tended to rage at first and has now settled down. It was interesting that being so young, his grief surfaced at first and is now calming down. <br /><br />This journey is so difficult for these kiddos. They are so very brave and they don't even know it.<br /><br />Hugs,<br />Janet, Kevin, Ted, Philip, and Elijah BourkeJanet and Kevinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02951028593473613761noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6293687555158792845.post-71593349766510885902010-07-14T01:08:55.446-05:002010-07-14T01:08:55.446-05:00Thank you for sharing. I've been following yo...Thank you for sharing. I've been following your blog since you were in China and your openness and honesty have been so helpful. I especially appreciated this post.Jill M. Gileshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15299153917922054230noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6293687555158792845.post-10083134254122832502010-07-11T06:00:57.083-05:002010-07-11T06:00:57.083-05:00I know it can be hard to do, Cristy...but thank yo...I know it can be hard to do, Cristy...but thank you for sharing.jasnjojhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17179550260183296807noreply@blogger.com